Cyber chat online with old men

05 Jan

"It's good to see people who are actually attracted to each other and not having sex for money," he says.

It sounds harsh, but it's what keeps a core of 30 or more regulars returning to the room, week after week."Women have told me they like to come to our room because we don't mess around," he says.

Getting booted is not the end of your cybersex chances.

I've never found that to work."In other words, don't be put off by a tightly knit community where everyone seems to know each other, where the inside jokes and innuendoes fly around as you attempt to introduce yourself.

If you're respectful and patient and smart, you'll become a part of it sooner than you think."I enjoy the power trip (of being an admin)," Kirk says, laughing.

It kills the mood if you toss too many endearments around in public, and mood is very important in adult chat."There's a momentum that happens," he says.

"You'll see a lot of cams up, lots of women playing, a little free-for-all.

He advises newbies to introduce themselves, to jump into the chat and start talking.

"When someone gets to know you, they might add you to their (friend) list," he says. I know people who do that all the time, but they don't do it with complete strangers."Kirk has been a member for almost four years, and rarely has cybersex anymore.

It's true that cybersex is not for everybody, and it can be emotionally dangerous even if you're not in a committed offline relationship and risking infidelity.

Some cyber partners even end up leaving the virtual space to get married. But it still irks me that it's such a shock when I explain that having sex online does not mean it's your last resort.

Women have told him that they prefer to see faces to cocks, so he keeps his camera pointing higher, à la Beautiful Agony.

And just so you know, these women aren't saying "I'd rather see your face" to avoid hurting his feelings. But even those of us who delight in dicks want to see your facial expressions, too.